When we talk about trust during our ten-day empowerment classes, we base our teachings on Brene Brown’s research. She talks about B.R.A.V.I.N.G., an acronym for how we trust, how we decide to show up and be seen. The I in B.R.A.V.I.N.G. stands for integrity, which Brene breaks down into three parts: courage over comfort; doing what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy; and practicing our values, not just professing them. The “courage over comfort” part of integrity stands out to us. How often can our circumstances be blamed on our comfort or our inability to step out of it?
We crave change but we sometimes fight it with everything we’ve got. Did you ever go out with your significant other or a friend intending to go to a different restaurant, only to find yourself at your usual spot eating your usual meal? We’re creatures of habit. We like things to be as they are. Sometimes we like it even when we don’t. We stay in relationships we know darn well are not healthy. We stay in jobs that we hate because the idea of doing something different is too daunting. We stay who we are, where we are, doing what we do because change is scary. But change is gonna come.
Whether we like it or not, life is about change. It’s about evolution. It’s about moving onward and upward. This is a good thing. It does take courage to not only go with the flow of change, but to embrace that journey. Change isn’t always good but it’s always beneficial. Whether it tells us to move in a different direction or let go of what’s been holding us back, change makes us step out of our comfort and into our life.
Check out Brene Brown’s “Anatomy of Trust” talk on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday here. http://www.supersoul.tv/supersoul-sessions/the-anatomy-of-trust